It's good to see someone who shares my view regarding work. Here's a speech by Adrain Tan at NTU Convocation 2008 which Marcus forwarded to me. Pretty long but interesting, so I've summed up the main points.
The first part is about life expectancy, in order words, don't expect yourself to live to a ripe old age...Forget about your life expectancy. After all, it's calculated based on an average. And you never, ever want to expect being average. That is what is expected of you. And if you live up to it, it will be an awful waste. If you expect that, you will be limiting yourself. You will be living your life according to boundaries set by average people. I have nothing against average people. But no one should aspire to be them. And you don't need years of education by the best minds in Singapore to prepare you to be average.
The next part tells you not to work
The third part is about not telling the truth, which I do not really understand
...Work is anything that you are compelled to do. By its very nature, it is undesirable.
Work kills. There's a common misconception that work is necessary. You will meet people working at miserable jobs. They tell you they are "making a living". No, they're not. They're dying, frittering away their fast-extinguishing lives doing things which are, at best, meaningless and, at worst, harmful. Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort. You may never reach that end anyway.
Resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you enjoy doing. Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have value in itself. Find that pursuit that will energise you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don't, you are working......The truth has a great capacity to offend and injure, and you will find that the closer you are to someone, the more care you must take to disguise or even conceal the truth. Often, there is great virtue in being evasive, or equivocating. There is also great skill. Any child can blurt out the truth, without thought to the consequences. It takes great maturity to appreciate the value of silence...
The following part is about be hated...One does not have to be evil to be hated. In fact, it's often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one's own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average. That cannot be your role. There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong...
Finally, love someone...I didn't say "be loved". That requires too much compromise. If one changes one's looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.
Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We've taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work - the only kind of work that I find palatable.
Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.
You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face is less important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.
You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you...
Don't work. Avoid telling the truth. Be hated. Love someone. Out of the four I probably only achieve don't work, since I appear quite slack most of the time and I'm always asking people not to work that hard. Unfortunately, it's not due to the fact I realised that I should live for the moment, but rather I don't see the point of working so hard when I cannot find my obsession. Not telling the truth is probably something I can't do, but I don't wish to do it either. I have been more direct and truthful for the past 2 years, and I'm quite comfortable with it. Being hated is something I need to work on, as it seems I'm far too compromising at times and I believe being hated is part of the trade-off for being loved. And loving someone, that's something I really long for.